FIVE LESSONS ON FORGIVENESS
REBUILD MY WORLD is romantic suspense, but its
theme is forgiveness. In the course of the story, several characters must learn
the power and peace of forgiveness. It isn’t a preachy story or a religious
one, rather a lesson in mental health.
You read that right. Forgiveness is good mental health.
How can Taylor Drake forgive the man who attacked
her and murdered her roommate? How can Adam Gillespie forgive the man who
contributed to his family’s financial ruin? How can Taylor and Wil forgive the
person responsible for their mother’s death? How can Adam forgive the man who
abandoned his pregnant sister and later forgive a startling betrayal within his
own family?
Yet, ultimately, they do forgive, and that’s the heart
of the story. Have you had to forgive someone when it went against every fiber
of your being? Or have you had to forgive yourself?
I’ve watched television programs about people who
visit the killer of a loved one in prison and forgive them. How can they? I’ve
asked myself repeatedly. Could I do that? Frankly, I hope I never have to test
myself on that one!
I remember after the terrorist attacks of
September 11, 2001, when ministers called on their congregations to forgive
those attackers. How’d you do with that one? I struggled. I was angry and
shocked. I wanted swift justice. Forgiving those responsible for all those
innocent lives asked too much. Yet I finally made peace with myself and forgave
them, thanks to the five lessons I learned (and share below).
Forgiveness isn’t easy. It can be one of the
hardest emotional decisions you’ll make. If you aren’t able to forgive, the
price you pay is high. The Drake and Gillespie families find this out for
themselves until they learn these five lessons:
1. Forgiveness
isn’t earned. You don’t forgive an offender because he deserves it.
2. Forgiveness
isn’t necessarily wanted or requested. The offender need not ask you for
forgiveness. In fact, he may be indifferent to your feelings.
3. Forgiveness
isn’t approval. You aren’t endorsing the behavior by forgiving the
offender.
4. Forgiveness
can be anonymous. Just because you forgive an offender, doesn’t mean he or
she will know about it (i.e. he may even be dead).
5. Forgiveness
is healthy. It relieves stress.
(Remember, resentment is an acid that eats away at its container).
In conclusion, forgiveness is about the forgiver,
not about the forgiven. Do it for your own health.
I hope you enjoy the mystery and romance that
unfolds in REBUILD MY WORLD. Although its theme is forgiveness, the story is
much more. Enjoy.
Cheryl
Norman lives in the Suwannee River Valley area of Florida, near her fictional
Drake Springs. She writes romance in several genres:
romantic suspense, time-travel, inspirational, and sweet series romance,
including the upcoming Drake Springs category romance series. She also writes
cookbooks and hosts the award-winning blog, hastytastymeals.com. For more about Cheryl, follow her on
Twitter (cherylnorman) and visit
her site (cherylnorman.com). Her
author blog is at http://cherylnorman.blogspot.com.
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